Stop helping people with depression.
People think that telling you what you should do to fix depression is helpful.
It’s usually not.
When people are miserable, what they often need is someone to just listen to them, empathize with them, and gently remind them that they have what it takes to get through it, and that you’re here to help.
Depressed people, especially smart ones, know what they should do to fix their problems. They should get daily exercise, eat healthy, go to therapy, get into a good sleeping schedule, and connect with other people. If need be, medication can serve as a temporary boost to battling depression.
The world isn’t starving for solutions.
It’s starving for connection, depth, authenticity, intimacy, and understanding.
If someone you know is struggling with depression, try to empathize with them. If you can’t empathize, then sympathize. Show you understand what they’re experiencing – even if just a little – and gently remind them that their depression is a natural human experience that doesn’t make them inferior or worthless.
Humans are tough. We can take a lot of damage before we break. Depression claims lives, but it also makes incredibly resilient people who survive it.
Every struggle can be seen through a different lens, if we accept that life is happening for us and not to us.